The Five Worst First Date Signs
If any of you could have 5 magic clues that the guy sitting across from you is absolutely, positively not the one as you sit there imagining yourself walking down the aisle in a Lhullier original, I have 5 no-fail tests for you. If women would just adhere to these 5 little field tests, I can assure you that a lot of tears, heartbreak and countless phone calls to friends who’ve heard it all before could be avoided. Each of these tests in my own dating history has proven to be absolutely ironclad – they are subtle signs that will inevitably point to larger, more unfortunate, behavior and, harsh as it is to hear, signs that you’re probably not the one for him either. If he demonstrates any one of the below while out with you, run as fast as you can. Likewise, if your date does the opposite of any one of these 5 things, he’s probably worth a second shot.
1. Keeps his cell phone on.
This is probably one of the most irritating things all of us have come across. If he sets his cellphone on the table, constantly checks his blackberry while you’re ordering or says “I’m sorry, I just need to check this” your date is basically telling you one of three things a) I’m so important and successful I must be on call at all times, b) I haven’t really broken up with my girlfriend/wife so I have to keep this on or she’ll know something’s up or c) my buddies are more important and if this date is bad, I need to know where to show up after you leave. Unless he’s a doctor or his sister in Minnesota is about to give birth, the cell phone, blackberry or iphone should respectfully be turned off.
2. Is rude to the waitstaff.
You can tell a person’s personality immediately by the way they treat others and, therefore, by the way they treat waitstaff. This doesn’t just go for dates, try this on your girlfriends as well. 9 times out of 10 when a guy is a jerk to a waiter, they will be a jerk to you, your friends and your family. Men who belittle and act ignorant to service and waitstaff want to feel entitled and that, my friends, is insecurity at its best. On the flipside, think about all those really social, fun guys you know who are incredibly charming and watch how they treat waitstaff. The difference is unbelievable.
3. Rubbernecks.
Hey, just because you’re on a diet doesn’t mean you can’t look at the menu but it’s downright rude to turn your head every single time a girl walks past the table or someone new walks in the door. Nothing makes women more upset but this particular guy doesn’t care. He’s essentially using his date with you to pick up other women and it’s a foreshadowning of things to come. Rubbernecks are always looking to trade up. They’re the ones that cheat on their girlfriends and wives. Beware.
4. Screams while driving.
This is another indicator of how this guy treats other people and how he handles stress in difficult situations. Ever been on a date with a guy who honks his horn at every light, screams at other drivers while leaning across you and just can’t seem to chill about the guy that cut right in front of him? Run. This man is a walking time bomb and he’ll treat you just the same.
5. Never Asks a Question About You.
Women are unfortunately taught to put the focus on the man during the first date, laugh at his jokes and make him feel coddled – if only to disarm how independent and intimidating you are. Check. But beware the guy that, during the course of an entire 2 hour dinner, never asks one question about you. It’s subtle sportsfans and he may not talk solely about himself the whole night but suddenly you get home and think, “Huh. He never asked one single question about me.” You’d think that this was impossible but it happens all the time. It not only is incredibly selfish but these guys have no clue and will claim to know a lot about you. Case in point, the guy never asked what you do for a living, where you work, if you like the heat in Austin, TX, where your family is,, etc… because in the end, he doesn’t have to. He just wants to sleep with you so the new campaign you just sold and the way you like your eggs is not on his list of things he needs, or wants, to know.
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